You've trained and worked like a madman - thousands of hours of sweat and blood. At the decisive moment, nothing works out. Already in your imagination, you fear to fail in the next situation. You are angry, disappointed, desperate and ashamed. Familiar? Read on!๐Ÿ‘‹

How Overcoming Fear Of Failure Helps You Succeed

TL;DR The answer to the question “how overcoming fear of failure helps you succeed” is simple: Overcoming fears can be learned.

The fears of failure grow with our constantly evolving world. Not only in sport, but also in business, at school and even in kindergarten, many people are afraid of failure – of doing something wrong and being punished by being laughed at or degraded as a loser.

The fear of fear arises. Overcoming one’s fears becomes more difficult with every failure.

But are mistakes and failures really bad?

“Yes” is what most people say. “No” say psychologists. I’ll show you how overcoming fear of failure can catapult you to the next level. Stay tuned.

Why fear is (mostly) no longer useful today

Fear has ensured our survival since the beginning of mankind. It is a protective mechanism and warns us of dangers. Breath and heartbeat accelerate, muscles prepare for battle or flight.

But we don’t have to fight for our lives during penalty shootings, job interviews or presentations as we did in the days of saber-toothed tigers and co. Fed by negative thoughts, the same primeval fears develop as they did then. They paralyze our thoughts and we only see what we are afraid of.

The reason for this is the individual character of fear. This means that fear is a result of our own evaluation.

Because apart from a few primeval fears, like the panic of snakes, fear arises only in the head. This makes it clear that one must also be able to overcome fears.

The first step on how overcoming fear of failure helps you to succeed is to perceive and accept fear and mistakes.

The art of failure

Every competition, every test, every task, and every challenge is always accompanied by the risk of failure.

If you succeed in training 9 out of 10 penalty kicks, the fear of failure in the game will probably draw out the one failed penalty.

But is the game really lost? Will your teammates curse you forever?

Basketball legend Michael Jordan once said about himself:

“I’ve missed more than 9,000 rolls and lost almost 300 games in my career. I was entrusted with the decisive throw 26 times, and I didn’t score. I have failed over and over again in my life. That’s why I’m so successful.”

Falling and losing is part of life. The question is whether you stay lying there and rob yourself of your thoughts of these negative experiences of future success or whether you get up, overcome your fears and continue to fight.

Look forward and not backward. Learn from your mistakes and above all learn to accept failures.

'The people who are most successful are those who know that failure is inevitable. - Coco ChanelClick To Tweet

So the next time you fail something, tell yourself, “I failed, but I’m not a failure!” Admit your mistakes, accept them, but don’t lose your trust in yourself and your self-esteem.

5 Steps How Overcoming Fear of Failure Helps you Succeed

Whether for business, sport or pleasure – with the following five tips you will once again master your thoughts and defeat your fear of failure.


Recognize your fears

Fears lie in the future. They do not exist, so they are not real. How can something unreal influence you here and now? Don’t let your fear shackle you and rob you of your potentials.


Imagine the worst thing that could happen

Go into the smallest detail and imagine the most terrible consequences of your failure. What will others think, say or do? You will probably notice that none of this is really bad. And that’s exactly what you should say to yourself with full conviction afterward: “No matter what happens, I can handle it”.


Visualize your goal/result

Before each shot, successful billiard players mentally go through the paths of the balls and visualize them. In their heads, they already know how to punch one ball after the other and how the opponent awesomely freezes. Turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Visualize your goal and not your fear.


Relax physically

Nothing is worse than trembling fingers at the Mikado World Championship. But even a foot weakened by fear gives little grip when dribbling. Before the game or lecture starts, try the following scientifically proven breathing technique: Breath in deeply, hold the air for a moment and then breathe out calmly. Repeat this breathing exercise several times until you become calmer again. A great technique to relax is to be more mindful.


Keep a success diary

Nothing motivates more than memories of success. Memories of the moments when everything worked out. If you don’t have a trophy cabinet yet (like me…), you can keep a kind of success diary with pictures, newspaper articles, and thoughts.

But also motivating Youtube videos of role models can help to face one’s fears with a broad chest.

Just watch this 3 min long video. You will notice how much energy and confidence there is in you.

However, be aware that overcoming fear is a (sometimes very long) process. For just as your fears have developed over the years, so it also takes time for you to be free and carefree again. Patience and the firm will change something are therefore essential!

Don’t be afraid to seek outside help if you can’t make it out of the “hole” on your own. That can be a friend, a psychologist or a self-help group. What others think about it, you simply don’t have to care. Because it is all about you and your psyche.

If you see it differently or even ridicule it, you have a problem yourself and you have to build up your self-confidence by making others down. Well, how pathetic is that?

So head up and stand by yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

Overcoming fears can be learned

The origin of our fears of failure lies in our performance society, in which a high status and a great career can only be achieved with lasting success.

However, Winston Churchill has also very well established that this is not the case:

'Success is the ability to move from one failure to the next without losing one's enthusiasm.'Click To Tweet

Moreover, our fears always relate to the future. It would, therefore, be nonsensical to let them spoil the present.

Instead, you should use visualization to redirect your thoughts to your goals, to the result you expect.

If you have further tips on how to overcome your fear of mistakes, I look forward to your experiences in the comments. How did you like this post? Let me know so that I can give you a better experience in the future.

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